Saturday, March 31, 2007

The A To Z Guide For Your Wedding Day

Attendants
Attendants, include the best man, bridesmaid, ushers, and groomsmen. Generally any people with some sort of responsibility on the big day. How many attendants are up to you but you need to consider the size of the church and your budget for the outfits and gifts. You need to rely on these for some of the organization of the day so choose carefully, the last thing you need is someone irresponsible in charge of the rings or any important tasks your require.

Budget
Every wedding has a budget be it a no hold bar white wedding extravaganza or a low-key smaller affair both can be a beautiful fun day for everyone. There are many ways to cut the cost on the big day with out compromising on style and atmosphere. You can do a lot of the organizing yourself, friends and family are always there to help with things like the video camera and helping to drive guests from the ceremony to the after party.

Cake
This is another important feature; as the cake will appear in the "cutting of the cake" photograph another staple of the wedding album. The flowers and bridesmaids out fits will also influence the style and color of the cake you do not have to settle for fruitcake though as there are endless fillings to choose from, this can also double as desert if you are on a tight budget.

Dress
The dress is going to be the center of attention for the whole wedding. The perfect dress should make the bride feel and look beautiful. This is achieved by a well-fitted dress that is flattering to the figure. Most importantly the dress should be comfortable as you will be wearing it all day long through out dinner and also dancing the night away, if you spend the day pulling and adjusting your dress this could ruin your whole day. Remember a happy bride will look beautiful either way.

Entertainment
The entertainment you choose for the after ceremony party should vary depending on what type of weeding your going for, from the classical stringed quartet to the full on wedding band. Any professional entertainment will eat into your budget but whatever you choose make sure you go to see them play before your big day as you do want your guests to have a good time and not spend the evening cringing at a nightmare wedding singer.

Flowers
The bridesmaid's outfits will set the trend for the colors of the flowers, so keep this in mind when choosing the color theme. These can range from the most flamboyant bouquet to the simplest white lilies. The most important being the bride's bouquet as this will feature in most of the wedding photographs so don't skimp on this.

Honeymoon
This will be the most extravagant holiday you ever had. Depending on what you can afford push the boat out and spoil yourself. Weather it be a five star in Mauritius or a Weekend in a five star hotel this is your quality time as man and wife and should be as comfortable and enjoyable as possible so don't hold back.

Invitations
The Invitations are the first taste the guests will get of your wedding so they should reflect what type of wedding its going to be Formal/Informal. Don't be afraid to be different this is your chance to be creative and making your own handmade cards is a nice touch and is also easy on the wallet.

Jewelry
You can go for diamante for that sparkly feel of pearl for the more understated bride, always remember whatever stones you choose the theme should run through out. Jewelry is also a nice thank you gift for the bridesmaids a nice matching necklaces for the brides to wear on the wedding day will go down well and you don't have to break the bank. Another special touch if possible is personally designed wedding bands most jewelers will do this but be expected to pay a bit more.

Love
You have done the most important part of the wedding day and that is finding each other and falling in love. With out you two this day would not be happening, therefore it's your special day to celebrate your love for each other. After the ceremony eat drink and be merry, enjoy the evening and have fun after all it will be both of you that will remember this day the most and you want to have loving happy memories with no stress. So let your hair down and dance the night away.

Marriage
There is also the legal aspects of marriage that are important as well as the spiritual, make sure you have all your legal requirements met and all your paper work in place well in advance of the wedding date, get all this out of the way first and this leaves plenty of time to concentrate on the more important enjoyable things.

Outdoor wedding
Oh what a wonderful day it would be, a beautiful sunny garden, a big white marquee adorned with lilies and trinkets, music, dancing all sounds beautiful. Hiring a marquee for the day is a really great idea if you live in a place were the weather permits. If not I wouldn't take the chance as a mud ridden lawn with cold wet guests doesn't sound as romantic. Also keep in mind the hiring of cutlery, crockery, heating, lights, toilets etc. all adds up.

Photography
The photographs are going to be the lasting feature of you big day so you want them to be as fabulous as possible. Take recommendations from friends and people who have recently got married, visit the photographer's studio and view his work. All photographers have a different style of photography so discuss carefully what you want. Most photographers wont allow you to keep the negatives of the wedding pictures so make sure you have some relatives take a camera as the more photos you order from the photographer the more you pay.

Reception
Your reception venue will be dictated by where you live, the amount of guests you are having and the style of wedding you want. You have a choice of hotel, outdoor marquee or to be slightly different you can choose a stately home or castle. Or why not run away from it all to a romantic holiday island with close friends and family.

Skin
You will want beautiful silky skin to match your beautiful new gown on that special day, so start taking care of your skin a couple of months before hand with some deep cleansing and exfoliating facials. We tend to forget the rest of the body so keep that back, neck and chest area glowing with regular exfoliating body scrubs and lashings of body cream this will ensure that J lo glow on the big day. When the day arrives treat your self to your favorite scented body lotion and load on generously to keep you smelling good enough to eat all day long.

Undies
Your dress will more or less decide what undies you require. A silicon based stick on bra for the strapless brides will make any bosom defy gravity. Or a steamy lace all in one will slim down your waistline. The store where you bought your wedding dress can advise on the appropriate type of underwear for your dress. Remember go for what makes you look good in the dress you can always change into something a little more "uncomfortable" later on.

Vows
Writing your own vows is a good idea if you want to give the ceremony a little more of a personal feel. Don't hide away from this as every ones a sucker for romance and it will add a certain intimacy to the ceremony. Don't forget to run these vows by the officiate before the big day to make sure they are happy to include them in the proceedings.

Winning Smile
There will be lots of kisses and smiling photos on the day so your lips and smile must be in tiptop shape. Firstly make sure there is no sign of a flaky smile, the night before apply some petroleum jelly to the lips and gently rub with an old tooth brush this will leave smooth soft lips ready for your favorite shade of color. Also visiting the dentist a few weeks before and getting your teeth cleaned and polished is a necessity for a bling bling
smile.

Yes
The whole wedding day is about two people saying yes. Yes to a lifetime partnership with each other, through the hard times as well as the good. Yes to loving each other through thick and thin. Yes is the most important word in the ceremony so savor the moment as it is upon this word the rest of your lives will be built.

Zzzzzz
Catching some Zzzzz the night before the wedding is essential. It is often tempting to have a few glasses of champagne to welcome the big day, but remember you have a long day ahead the following morning and bloodshot eyes in the photographs will linger on for ever. Have a warm relaxing bath with some lavender oils then go to bed. Anyway you can always make up for it on your wedding night!

About the Author
Declan Tobin is a successful freelance writer providing advice on purchasing a variety of Wedding Dresses which includes Wedding gowns, Designer wedding gowns, and more! His numerous articles provide a wonderfully researched resource of interesting and relevant information for all of your wedding interests.

Friday, March 30, 2007

CHOOSING A PHOTOGRAPHER AND/OR VIDEOGRAPHER

The Photographer:
Your wedding photographer is, in a sense, a biographer, capturing a very important part of your life for you and your family to enjoy for years to come. Therefore, choose him or her carefully. Some couples attempt to reduce expenses by not hiring a professional photographer. They later realize that was a mistake when they have only a few snapshots as mementos of the big day.

Don't agree to let a family member or friend photograph the wedding unless you are sure that the person has a good camera and knows how to use it. The camera should be equipped with interchangeable lens that can be used in low light and it should take good pictures from a distance. A person who takes good close-up outdoor photos cannot necessarily take good in-door photos from a distance, especially with a standard 35mm flash camera. (Most professional photographers use medium format cameras, not 35 mm.)

Beware of any photographer who offers a deal that is too good to be true; it probably is. First, ask to see their portfolio and ask for references, and then check them. Know what you are paying for before you sign a contract.

Choose a photographer whose personality you like. He/she will be "in your face" for several hours, so you must feel comfortable working together.

It takes at least five hours to cover the important pictures at most weddings, particularly if the ceremony and reception will be held in different locations and travel time is involved. If you purchase a three or four hour package, then ask the photographer to stay longer, you may have to pay overtime at a rate of $100 or more per half-hour.

Ask how long the photographer keeps the negatives, should you or someone else want additional copies in the future. Most photographers keep the negatives for one year. Some photographers allow you to purchase all of the proofs, thus providing you with a complete story of the day. Other photographers allow you to purchase the negatives and the proofs. This can save you money, but you may not get the same quality of pictures if you take the negatives to a store to be developed, since photographers use the services of a professional lab.

The actual wedding photos of the bride and groom and the combined wedding party may be taken either before the wedding or afterwards. Today, most couples prefer to do it about 2 1/2 hours before the ceremony, so that the bride and groom can proceed to the reception immediately after the ceremony. The photo session will last about 2 hours, ending about a half hour before the ceremony begins. If the groom doesn't want to see the bride in her gown until the last minute, schedule a few minutes for him to see the bride alone before the pictures begin.

Many couples find that the photo shoot time before the ceremony helps to calm the nerves of the wedding party members. Everyone will look fresher than they will after having worn gowns and tuxes for several hours. If you are sure that you do not want to have pictures of the two of you taken together before the ceremony, be certain to let the photographer know, and then arrange to serve something, such as a beverage and light hors d' oeuvres, to your guests while they wait for you to arrive at the reception. Not all photographers will do a split photo session, so be sure to ask.

Pictures should end a half hour before the ceremony begins so that the bride and groom are out of the site of arriving guests and can have a few minutes to catch their breath. Do not let the photographer insist on taking pictures right up to the moment of the ceremony. If you do, you will feel rushed and pressured. Remember, the photographer is your employee and should respect your wishes.

If you are interested in having mostly candid or black and white photos, be sure to inform the photographer when you first interview them. If they don¹t like to do these types of pictures, find someone else.

The Videographer:
It is easier, and usually less disastrous, to engage an amateur videographer than photographer. One benefit of engaging a professional is that they may send more than one camera, so that the ceremony is covered from more than one angle.

The videographer should attend the rehearsal, if possible, and the minister or church wedding coordinator should note any restrictions that the facility might have about the use of a video camera during the ceremony. The camera should be placed securely on a tripod; therefore, enough room will need to be available for the camera, especially in the area near where the bride and groom will exchange vows or the wedding party will walk or stand. If only one camera is used, it should be positioned so that it catches the vows and close-ups of the bride and groom during the ceremony.

The videographer will probably want to photograph the invitation and possibly the program for inclusion in the finished video. The videographer will probably not arrive as early as the photographer, but he or she may stay longer and photograph more of the reception.

Ask about previewing the video before it is completely finished so that you can make any desired changes. If you purchased an economy package, you may not be able to view the video or make editing decisions. If you can view the video, the preview will probably be scheduled for a couple of weeks after the wedding. Videography costs vary widely depending on the amount of editing that you choose to do, so be prepared.

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Memory Makers Event Planning LLC
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Choosing Music For The Beach Wedding Reception

Selecting music for your beach wedding reception is something you don't want to put off until the last minute. A successful wedding reception is the result of a team effort between the DJ and the bride and groom. Here are some tips to help you make your reception something your guests will talk about for years to come.

1. Think in terms of a train that gains speed. It starts out slowly but quickly gains momentum. Your reception should build in terms of volume and pace of the music.

2. Select all your "must do" songs as early as possible. This would include entrance music, first dance, father daughter and groom mother dance. The wedding party dance is optional and many brides are choosing to include all the wedding party in their dance festivities.

3. First Hour (Cocktail Hour). Select music that sets the tone for the reception. We recommend that the first hour include, Frank Sinatra, Ella Fitzgerald, Dean Martin, Bobby Darin, and perhaps some big band like Glenn Miller. Keep the music upbeat so that people don't fall asleep during the cocktail hour while waiting for dinner.

4. Second Hour (Dinner). Continue in the Frank Sinatra jazz mode, but then change to perhaps Jimmy Buffet, Bob Marley and John Mayer. Your younger guests will love this and your older guests will be pleased that you played classy jazz tunes before picking up the tempo. If you are doing your first dances after dinner, you will definitely want to kick into high gear or dance music immediately following these dances.

5. Third Hour (Dance Music). 80's music, disco and classic rock 'n roll works well during this hour. You'll want to play something that everyone can dance to.

6. Fourth Hour (Dance Music). Continue same music and reserve the last hour for group songs like YMCA, conga lines (if you want one). Also this is the time to use top 40 or hip hop songs. We don't recommend playing hip-hop too early, because it can discourage some of the older crowd from dancing.

7. Let the music do the talking. Advise you DJ that you want "less talk and more music." It works on the radio and it definitely works at wedding receptions. People want to hear good music and not a gabby DJ.

8. Submit your music list no later that 30 days before the reception. Ask the DJ to let you know what "must do " songs (like for the first dance) he has in his library and those he does not have on hand. Those selections that are not available can be brought by the bride and groom if it is in their library. (If it is your favorite, most likely you'll have it.) While most DJ's have several thousand songs, they don't always have everything requested.

9. Be neat. When submitting your music, keep your list be as neat as possible. Sometimes brides will make changes and use arrows to determine a change in songs. If the list is confusing or the DJ has to work at reading your writing, you could end up with the wrong song, at the wrong time. No need for this to happen, if you are neat and tidy with your music submissions. Also be sure that your music titles are accurate. If you give the DJ a wrong title, it ultimately will not be the song you wanted to hear.

10. Enjoy your wedding reception. A good DJ will have everything written out in an hour by hour format. He or she will prompt you for certain things to happen. It's their job to keep track of these things, so you don't have to worry about what happens and when at your wedding reception.


About the Author
Written by SoundWavz Entertainment
Article courtesy of Outer Banks Wedding Guild

Money Saving Tips for Your Wedding Flowers

CHOOSE FLOWERS IN SEASON
Avoid using flowers that are exotic or not in season. It is much more expensive to have to specially imported flowers. Plus, if you're looking for out-of-season blooms, they will be harder to find elsewhere, and their rarity can also add to the cost.

DECORATE WITH GREENERY
Use greenery such as trees and garlands of ivy to fill large areas. This will give a dramatic impact for relatively little money. Small trees, such as palms and ficus can usually be rented. Ivy garlands and eucalyptus leaves are also lovely when placed around the edge of the cake or gift table.

DECORATE WITH ROSE PETALS
You can choose from fresh or silk petals. A scattering of petals on each table adds a lovely touch of color, and petals en masse, such as a ring around the base of your cake, makes a dramatic statement. Petals come in different color choices and are inexpensive.

RE-USE ARRANGEMENTS AND BOUQUETS
Use your ceremony floral arrangements at the reception. You've already paid for them, why not get a whole evenings worth out of them? Floral arrangements and ribbons which decorated the aisle can dress up the cake table. Bouquets can also be used to decorate the cake, guest book or head tables. Altar arrangements can be placed on either side of the head table, or used at the entry to the ballroom.

CONSIDER SHARING CHURCH ARRANGEMENTS
If another wedding will take place at the same location and same day as yours, you may want to share altar arrangements, pew bows, and other flowers and split the cost.

CONSIDER SMALLER BOUQUETS
Rather than having you and your bridesmaids carry large, elaborate bouquets, how about smaller, elegant bouquets instead? The larger the bouquet, and the more time spent in putting it together will cost you more money. Consider the dramatic look of one or two white calla lilies or a single rose (what a classic!) with a lovely ribbon that coordinates with your color scheme beautifully tied on the stems.


About the Author
Jean Neuhart is the owner of Weddings From The Heart. As a Professional Bridal Consultant, she helps busy brides and their fiances plan creative, personalized and stress-free weddings.
Article © November 2006

Lucky in Love - Lucky in Marriage

777 the Most Popular Wedding Date in Years

Choosing Special Wedding Dates
Since ancient days, in many cultures, brides and grooms chose their wedding date very carefully. Some days have always been preferred over others.
Even today in the USA, certain dates are considered more popular than others. Traditionally Labor Day, Memorial Day, the 4th of July, the Christmas holiday season and The thanksgiving weekend are chosen most often for wedding celebrations.

This year there is a date that tops all of them. In fact some consider it a phenomenon. This special day is July 7, 2007 or 777

We have interviewed both, engaged couples who chose this as their wedding date and wedding vendors, professionals and service providers hired by them.
Reasons for Choosing July 7. 2007 as a Wedding Date
Some of the reasons given us by the couples were:
Having found the loves of their life, the couples feel lucky. Adding 777 to the occasion is the ultimate jackpot.
To have their life long commitment blessed with luck. As one couple iterated:"you can never have too much luck."
Many individuals and couples consider number 7 their favorite number.
Quite a few couples cited the Biblical reverence of number 7. The most common reference was to the 7 days of creation and that God blessed and rested on the 7th day, so that still today our week contains 7 days. The other popular reference was to the prayer of the Lord having 7 petitions.
Of great importance was also the fact that the 7th of July falls on a saturday so close to The 4th of July holiday allowing for a weekend long enough for guests from far away not to have to rush home. A weekend long enough for relaxing, un-hurried destination weddings.
Some of those we interviewed said that they just liked the way 777 looks on their invitations, that it sounds nice and that it offers great wedding theme possibilities.
All, with no exception liked the fact that the date is easy to remember. I can certainly identify with this way of thinking. When I chose to get married on the 4th of July, I considered that the date is easy to remember, we'll be off from work and that every year the entire country will help us celebrate.
What Wedding Vendors, Professionals and Service Providers Say About July 7. 2007 as a Wedding Date
All Wedding Vendors, Professionals and Service Providers, with no exception feel very lucky. They were booked early, some over 2 years ago. Of those who can accommodate more than one wedding on that day, the majority already have waiting lists and we are only in March. Realizing the popularity of the date, quite a few raised their standard fees. They figured that with so many couples vying for the date, they'll get top dollar plus. Brides and grooms are aware of the higher prices and of the competition for the 777 wedding date and are willing to pay the price to secure it.

We spoke with hotels and halls and all are filled. Las Vegas the wedding capital of the world has been sold out for quite some time as have other cities with casinos.
If you are a couple, in need of a wedding site, note that 777 is in the summer and consider the following options:
A destination wedding in a rural setting or abroad
A wedding in a home
A wedding in a park
A wedding on a beach
A wedding in a university hall
A wedding at a museum that offers such a facility
A wedding on a private estate
A wedding at a bed and breakfast
A wedding at sea, on a yacht or boat.
Do you have any ideas to share with us?

What if you can not find a caterer?
Contact a restaurant
Summon your family and friends and start cooking and freezing.
Have a picnic reception
Have a pot luck reception

OFFICIANTS who offer a ceremony venue whom we interviewed, suggested that they'll perform one ceremony every 45 minutes or an hour until quite late into the night.

WEDDING PLANNERS have donned their thinking caps, coming up with ideas for 777 themes for their clients. Some ideas are:
Starting either the ceremony or the reception at 7:00pm
Having 7 instead of 8 guests per table,
Setting the tables in the hall in the shape of number 7
Having 7 different centerpieces - repeating if there are more than 7 tables
Having a 7 tier wedding cake or a wedding cake shaped like number 7
Having the wedding accessories embelished with either 777 or luck oriented decorations*
Using 3 number 7 jewelry cake top numerals
Having #7 on jewelry and engraveable gifts for the wedding attendants
Having 7 people in the wedding party
Having a 7 candle candalabra on the bridal table
giving out favors and decorating with luck related items such as:* 777, good luck charms, 4 leaf clover, horse shoes, rainbows, stars, lucky pennies in a shoe, preferable minted in a year with 7. How about Scratch or lottery tickets or Jersey # 7 of a favorite team?
For a match made in heaven and the seventh heaven representing a state of extreme happiness and bliss, a heavenly theme wedding with the heavenly bodies sun, moon and stars present on wedding accessories, hall decorations, centerpieces and favors.
A few planners were asked to arrange a fun, "Las Vegas night" style reception. Most suggested that their clients must be sure that if they invited guests who are against gambling, they may find objectionable. So, know your guests before you plan a casino like reception.

I have interviewed a planner who really got inspired by the date.
She arranged that her clients will
have a hotel room with a number 7 on the door.
Both the limo for the wedding day and the rental car for the 7 day honeymoon have number 7 on their license plates.
She secured - reserved parking spot number 7 for them.

July 7. 2007 as a Wedding Date
Flexibility and the Creative Brides and Grooms
A few of the couples we interviewed, who secured 777 as their wedding date and who are flexible had rather creative ideas.
The two that were really unique were by a bride and groom who were willing to sell their wedding day complete with all the arrangements. They said that they will be glad to change their wedding date for a fee.
Another couple familiar with the tradition in some countries of 'Community Weddings' is willing to have a shared wedding providing the other bride and groom will pick up the tab for the agreed upon flowers, decorations and entertainment. "This," said the bride "will save us money but will not add to the wedding costs the other brides and grooms."
The hall will be divided in such a way that the guests of each wedding will be separated from the other.
A few couples seem interested, in fact they believe that it will be a unique wedding experience and will leave lasting fun memories for both couples.

So, Why, is this Date or the Combination of Numbers
So Special and Sought After?
Since ancient times, the number 7 was revered and considered LUCKY by most all societies and in many fields such as: Religion, Ethics, Mathematics, Spiritualizm, Numerology, Geography, Astrology and Philosophy.
Following are but a few samples
The bible Reveres the number 7 many times.
Since the time of the ancient world, people revered the
7 sacred planets.
The Seven Seas
The seven virtues
The seven Stars
and of course the 777 Ultimate Jackpot.


Contributed by Nily Glaser
Copyrights © 2006 All Rights Reserved Nily Glaser

How to choose a Wedding site.

Bride and Groom

General information

We recommend that if possible, both bride and groom will attend all interviews.

Always carry a note pad and pen to write down important information and questions that may arise during your interview.

Actually, choosing the wedding site that is just right for you, is a lot of fun.
Before you start looking, you should brainstorm. As you do, take to consideration your budget, your wedding theme, the atmosphere you want at your wedding, your interests, and your guests.

The location is one of the most important aspects of your wedding so consider carefully what will make yours a special, one-of-a-kind wedding event. You have many option including a do it yourself wedding (friends and family contributing of course.) Following is a list to get you started.
Ideas for wedding sites include:
A Home - do it yourself wedding,
Auditoriums - usually on a rental basis,
Beach - public domain may need permit and or license,
Bed and Breakfast - full service,
Camp Grounds - do it yourself wedding,
Club Houses - do it yourself wedding,
Country Clubs - most offer full service,
Conference Centers- some offer full service, some are on a rental basis,
Convention Centers - some offer full service, some are on a rental basis,
Hotel - Ball Rooms - Grounds or - Gardens. A Gazebo makes a wonderful setting for a wedding ceremony- full service
Houses of Worship - Churches - Synagogues - Temples - Mosques - etc...some offer full service, some are on a rental basis, some can only facilitate the ceremony,
Mansions - full service
Museums -some museums offer celebration rooms and may even help with special wedding themes, especially historical - usually on a rental basis,
Parks - Great - do it yourself wedding,
Patio - Gardens - do it yourself wedding,
ranches - usually on a rental basis,
Resorts, full service
Rented Halls - usually on a rental basis,
Stadiums - usually on a rental basis,
Yachts or Cruise Ships - full service,
You can probably come up with some more ideas.

Unless the location is your top priority, choose the dream location and a few alternative sites that will be just right for you, so that if necessary you can be flexible. Some location are natural for weddings and offer all the amanities you need. Others rent the space and leave the rest to you, still others are free but you have to make all the arrangements. So, consider your budget, consider the work involved, consider your guests and choose the site that will afford you your dream wedding. The information you gathered, is actually a wonderful preparation for your interviews.

FULL SERVICE WEDDING SITE and FACILITIES

These are venues that can take care of every little detail regarding your ceremony and reception. You'll still need to attend to your personal needs. You'll need to attend to the attire, wedding accessories and wedding gifts for each other, family, and wedding attendants.

SITES AVAILABLE on a RENTAL BASIS

Many wedding sites that are available on a rental basis. Some provide the space, others provide tables and chairs too while still other provide linens, tableware, flatware and glassware as well. There are also rental based sites that have a working relationship with selected caterers and are familiar with other wedding service providers and vendors.

PUBLIC SITES

Public parks, beaches, gardens etc... make great wedding sites and are perfect for do it yourself weddings. They offer you the opportunity to express yourselves in an unconfined atmosphere. Most are free to use but you'll need to do the majority of the planning and contracting. Your first step is to find if you need any permits and or licenses. If you do, obtain them.

HOME

Many apartment complexes, condominums, mobil home parke and gated communities have club houses for their residents´ use. So whether you choose to have your wedding in a home or a club house, you'll need to be in charge. Do recruit your family and friends and assign them appropriate tasks. Most will be honored to be asked and excited to be a contributing part of your wedding.

How to Find Wedding Sites
Once you have chosen the type of wedding site you want for your wedding, do the following:
Ask your family, friends and acqaintances for recommendations.
Attend bridal shows.
search the yellow pages under the appropriate category.
Either call or visit the facility and request a brochure specific to weddings.
You want only the best! Be selective!
When visiting or calling, were you greeted cordially?
Were you able to obtain the information you requested in a timely manner?
Were the people you spoke with helpful? Too helpful and eager?
Now, check the internet for local wedding sites and go to their websites.
Do you like the look and feel?
Does it provide you with the information you are looking for?
Does it show or tell about unique one-of-a-kind weddings ? Can you find Free gifts, Free articles or Free information? Are they helpful? Did you find a clearly posted name, address, phone and email contact?
If not, skip it and go to another site.
Bookmark (favorite) the websites that are agreeable. Place the brochures in a folder until you are ready to choose a few favorites.

What to Expect of the Representative of the Facility:
A business card of each person you may work with within the facility.
A brochure that explains what is offered and any exclusions, rules, regulations and options.
References
A tour of the facility so you may check their amenities.

Questions for the representative of the facility:
Please note that not all questions apply to all. Each question will indicate what venue(s) it is directed to.
fs = full service - rb = rental basis - ps = public site

Are there bathrooms on the premises? ps
Are there garbage recepticles on the premises? ps
Are rhere electric outlets on the premises? ps
What are the hours available for a wedding? ps
(Most public sites are available only on certain days and certain hours.)
Is there a parking area close by? ps
How long have you been accomodating wedding parties ? fs - rb
How many wedding clients have you served? fs - rb
Do you offer any guarantees? fs - rb
Do you have an in-house wedding coordinator? fs - rb
Do you offer a bridal package? fs
What are your rates for the different packages and what are the options available? fs
Can you recommend wedding vendors and service providers your customers had a good experience with? fs - rb
Do you offer any discounts? fs - rb
What additional expenses may be charged? fs - rb
Do you provide an insured and bonded babysitting service?* fs
How much and by when will we need to put down the deposit? fs - rb
What is the latest time frame for making changes? fs - rb
Will you provide us with a written contract? fs - rb - ps
Does the contract include a 3 day cancellation clause? fs - rb - ps

* If you plan not to include children in your reception, do not alienate guests who'd rather bring children than miss your wedding. You should provide a babysitting service for such guests.

Once you made your choice, you need to receive a written contract signed by the person in charge, and dated. The contract must include all of your responsibilities and all of the responsibilities, warranties and guarantees offered by the facility. Caveat Emptor - Buyer beware! Read each contract very carefully, on, under and above the line. Be sure that you understand it fully and agree with all the terms. If you have questions, concerns, or are uncertain, contact them for clarification.
In most parts of the USA you have 3 days to examin the contract and if you need to, cancel with no penalties.

Contributed by Nily Glaser
Copyrights © 2006 All Rights Reserved Nily Glaser